Dove With a Broken Wing…

I stared into the mirror, tears streamed down my face,

The woman that I saw filled me with disgrace.

Her face was drawn and sallow; her eyes had lost their luster

A mere semblance of a smile was all that she could muster

“Look at me!’ I sobbed, “I’m a dove with a broken wing,

Never more to fly, no reason left to sing.”

 

And he came to me and said “Woman why do you cry?

You can heal your broken wing, if only you will try.

First and foremost, you must get rid of this player,

You must expose the source; you must strip away the layers.”

So I washed away all the makeup, the lipstick, and the rouge

And colored my hair back to its original hues

 

But it was not enough, he was not satisfied,

He said it was a start, but it was only the outside.

He told me to knock down the fortress in which I hid.

And though I felt great trepidation, I did as I was bid.

I chopped away at my fear, my prejudice, and my pride

Until at last all that remained was who I really am inside.

 

And as the last vestiges fell away, I heard him say to me

“Now, look again into the mirror and tell me what you see.”

So I looked, and what I saw filled me with surprise.

The woman gazing back at me I could barely recognize

Her face glowed with gentle radiance; her eyes were bright and bold,

Her smile sparkled pure; she was a vision to behold.

 

As I looked, I felt inside mea steadfast certainty,

Yet still, I could scarcely believe that lovely woman was me.

Then he whispered, “My beautiful Dove you’ve healed your broken wing

Fly you now to the mountaintops and lift your voice and sing.

Sing with sweet exuberance; dance with all your heart,

And never ever again doubt who you really are.”

 ~ Shannon Shirreff ~

Odd Request….

A couple of years ago my teenage son had the opportunity to travel to France and Italy through his school. On the day of his departure, I made him promise me that he would not leave France without eating a creme brulee. Up until that point in time, he had never tried one and apparently neither had any of his trip mates – even the chaperones. In fact, most of them had never even heard of it. He told me later that they thought my request was odd, since other parents had requested souvenirs and trinkets. On his final night in France, he and a couple of friends went to several restaurants in Nice before finally locating one that served creme brulee. He said that cracking into it and taking that first taste was absolute heaven. He gave his friends a taste, after which they understood why I had made him promise to try it.
 
My son and I have enjoyed many creme brulees together here in Canada since that time, often with a nice glass of white wine, and he still talks about the first time he tried it. I’m sure the other parents received their trinkets and souvenirs as requested, which are likely long-since broken and discarded. I wanted my son to have the experience and the memory instead – something that would last a lifetime and that he could recount to his grandchildren some day.

Stayin’ Alive….

I switched on the radio the other day while at work just as the BeeGees signature song Stayin’ Alive started to play. Listening to the lyrics took me back to the late 70′s – Grease, John Travolta and Olivia Newton-John, roller-skating, our first colour TV, our first microwave and dishwasher, and all the rest that went with that era. 

I was in my pre-teen years at that time, and Saturday Night Live was the first adult music album that I bought with my hard-saved allowance money – on 8-track, although records were also still popular at that time. 

Of course, I have purchased innumerable albums since then, in a variety of genres, in record, 8-track, cassette tape, CD, and digital formats.  But Saturday Night Live will always hold the distinction as being the first album that started off my collection, and the marker of the beginning of my transition from a kid into a teen.

Trusting Your Inner Guidance….

Like many of you, my road of life has had a few bumpy patches and unanticipated challenges.  It’s during times like these that we often turn to family or friends for guidance and advice.  And while I have appreciated all of the support that I have received from various sources, one important lesson that I’ve learned is to trust my own inner voice.  I have come to realize that no two people walk exactly identical paths in life. Thus, although there may be aspects of the advice of others that applies to my situation and although others may have encountered similar circumstances, ultimately, I need to trust in myself.  I am the one walking my path. I need to trust my own inner compass to navigate me through tough times and that know without a doubt that I have the inner wherewithall to do so. 

In our busy, noisy lifestyle, heeding to our inner voice is something that has become forgotten.  It takes discipline to make the time to be still, to recognize, and to really listen to our inner source.  Heeding our inner source also sometimes means that we take actions or solve problems in ways that seem absurd or unconventional to others.  It takes courage to  steadfastly walk our path and not worry about those who do not understand or who reject us.  For me, the words of Dr. Seuss have been a source of encouragement in this regard: “Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.”

Happy Food….

So many of our associations with food these days have such a negative undercurrent, such as eating disorders, calorie counting, or a means of coping with life’s difficulties. Despite this, the cookie has managed to rise above this and maintain its status as a genuinely happy food. Whether they are Oatmeal Chocolate Chippers, Snickerdoodles, or Monsters, cookies are just plain cheerful.  As a baker at the local supermarket, my son will tell you that one of his favorite tasks was giving out free cookies to the little ones and watching their faces light up.

Perhaps they evoke memories of mom’s and grandma’s home baking.  Perhaps they enable us to recall fun times decorating gingerbread men and Valentine’s hearts, both as a kid and as a parent with our own kids. Perhaps the fancier varieties such as Shortbread, Thimble Cookies, and Rosettes instill a little decadence into our lives. Perhaps it is their delicious aroma.

Whatever their magic, I have discovered, after conducting some personal experiments, that it is not possible to say the word “cookie” or to eat a cookie without smiling or feeling your mood brighten. If you don’t believe me, feel free to conduct your own yummy experiments. I look forward to hearing your results. 

PS:  My favorite kind of cookie is Peanut Butter.  What’s yours?

Words…

Words without heart are like music without a drum,

Out of sync, out of rhythm, they know not from whence they come.

Out they tumble, unbidden, uninhibited,

They ring with hollowness, and their chaos is exhibited.

Spoken without thought, in the heat of the moment,

They wound like a sword and cause great torment.

 

But it is indeed a lovely melody,

When the words and the heart speak as one, in harmony.

Rich with truth, full of gentleness and peace,

They bring great joy, they are a release.

Spoken with thought, in truth and love,

They heal all wounds, and on their strength you rise above.

The numbers game….

Virtually every aspect of our current lifestyle involves numbers in some way, shape, or form.  In fact, when you really think about it, numbers call the shots. They dictate what does and does not happen in our lives. Sometimes numbers make us feel good; other times numbers make us feel badly. Think for a moment what it would be like to have a life with NO numbers.  For starters there would be no more time, no more dates, no more money.  What would it be like to just go with the flow instead of being governed by the clock. To put in a good day’s work for the sake of truly accomplishing something rather than just for the almighty paycheque. To know clients by name instead of by some anonymous identifier. To simply enjoy that piece of chocolate cake without guilt over the calorie count or the fat content.  To no longer stress over things like age, weight, debtload, distance, wages, grade point average, and years of service. The list is infinite. 

Of course, numbers have also enabled many great advances in technology that have changed our world and improved quality of life – a list that is equally infinite. To have no numbers would mean those things would not exist either. Still, it seems to me that numbers have been given an inflated place of power and decision -making, and often times this comes at the sacrifice of other things that are equally (or more) important, such as family, friends, coworkers, employees, relaxation and leisure, joy, happiness, rejuvenation, and health. When our perception of numbers becomes tainted everything becomes unbalanced.  Our life becomes like an ever-increasing treadmill where we continuously put all our efforts into trying to make the numbers bigger and better. Meanwhile, the rest of our life diminishes. I say it’s time to stop playing the numbers game and ensure we are retaining our own power to make sound decisions based on ALL of the criteria, rather than letting our lives be dictated by the roll of a dice, the bottom line of a balance sheet, or the clock on the wall.

The open gate….

I grew up around horses, which were my dad’s passion in life.  In the warm months the horses were pastured out in the meadow.  In the late fall, the spring foals would be weaned from their mothers, and they would all be kept in the corrals to be fed during the winter months.  After living in confined quarters for several months, the horses were restless as the snow began to melt and the weather began to turn warm again.  When it was time for them to return to the pasture, we would open the gate, stand back out of the way, and watch. As soon as the horses realized the gate was open, they would charge through it, bucking and kicking and squealing with delight at their freedom. Then, they would gallop full tilt out into the pasture, their first real run after being cooped up for so long.

 There was a time when I had become confined and cooped up by life’s issues and circumstances. At long last, the gate is now open, and just like the horses, I’m charging through it, kicking up my heels, relishing my new-found freedom, and running for the open pasture.

The best complement of all….

I was riding the city bus home from work, when suddenly I heard a voice call out “Hi Mom!” Seconds later, I found myself enveloped in a bear hug.  No, it wasn’t my teenage daughter – it was her friend, who happened to be sitting at the back of the bus with a group of schoolmates.  She had spied me and come over to say hi.  “No, that’s not my mom,” she explained to her peers, who were giving her questioning looks. “That’s my best friend’s mom, but I call her Mom too - it just feels right.”  

It’s always nice to receive a complement from my boss or from my clients when they’re happy with my work. It’s always great to receive a complement when I’ve knocked myself out cooking up a meal for family or friends, or on those rare occasions when I’m all dolled up for a night out. But for me, being called Mom by my kids’ friends is the best complement of all.

Throwing away the paintbrush….

Most of us have come through a challenging time in our lives. Once the dust has settled, we regroup and attempt to leave that time behind us and move forward. And, if you’re like me, you made a little inner vow to yourself to never repeat the same mistakes or step into the same situation again. And, while this may seem like solid logic in theory, in reality there is a hidden flaw: instead of the vow freeing us to move forward from our past situation, it actually serves to keep us trapped there. Why? Firstly, because although there may be similarities, no two circumstances are ever absolutely identical. Each circumstance has its own unique variables. Thus, what applied previously will not necessarily apply now or in the future. Secondly, because the inner vow subtley causes our focus to shift from a place of inner power where we are moving forward, to a place of inner fear where we are constantly wary of being duped.

So many times, when new situations present themselves, instead of seeing these for what they truly are, we haul in all of our old biases and preconceived notions from our past and, in essence, paint the new scenario with the same old brush. We become stuck, wondering why nothing ever changes, when in actuality it is us who is resisting the opportunities for change.

I recently learned this lesson the hard way, but it was a much-needed shake-up. So, I am hereby throwing away the paintbrush, and embracing the fullness of exciting new prospects.

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